Why do I always fall in love with guys I’m not very attracted to?
By - Cloudmaker92
I feel like this is pretty common with gay guys, maybe because we’re kind of traumatised and so we want to be with guys who are macho and kinda mean, but really that’s not healthy. Therapy my dude, it’ll help.
Because you can teach your partner what you like in bed and be teached in return.
Not really, our sexuality is personal and quite unique and you can and shouldn’t teach anything to anyone if what they like is being soft and they are a bit lazy you can’t do much about it. He likes mostly giving oral and I like mostly being fucked. Also you can change his size (I don’t feel him very much)
??? You very much can and should teach your partner what you like, and a good partner is receptive to that. Sexuality is an ever changing thing, not something innate and static. Even if they're not very into it, people do things for their partner/s' happiness, and there's ways to figure out what it is that people like about particular things and scratch that itch in a different way. As an example, my partner and I are both tops and not willing to switch, so we throw each other around (because we like the dominance of topping) and use toys on each other.
Also penis extenders exist
I think you are right..:
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I think you are the one confusing things here.
It is very much possible to fall in love with someone without being sexually/physically attracted to them. Even though i would advice against following through with that if its the case but some people can manage.
As you said: Love and sexual satisfaction are not the same, that’s why I can fall in love without sexual satisfaction
Best way i can think to explain this is whit a Friends reference; We all think we are a chandler or Joey, while most of us are just Ross, and most of us will love ross, while we think chandler or joey will be the perfect partner.
Ps, if its sex drive thats not ok and probably doomed to fail.
If its the Sex itself, this can be tought and improved as you both learn eachother