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I am writing a story, need a bit of help

I am writing a story, need a bit of help

KindlesAndKittens

okay. we need more non-binary characters. also more badass overwheight characters. and well written autistic characters.


blue_honeyblood

Thanks!


sanorace

Polyamory or multiple partners A lot of times romance subplots have a love triangle with the clear intent that the character will "pick one" even when all three have chemistry together. It would be fun to see a canon polycule!


OliveLively

YES


blue_honeyblood

Thanks!


generallyannon93

I have a question, not a critique: some communities are uncomfortable be spoken for or represented by folx who aren't a part of that community. Do you fall into any of the categories you mentioned? I ask this because as a writer, it can be trickier to write about something you don't have experience with. For example: I could share the heartache of being a closet bisexual until I was in my 30s and share the pain of denying part of who I was my entire life, but no matter how good I was with words, the pain, embarrassment, personal shame, and journey to discovery wouldn't be something you could ever truly represent or convey entirely accurate because you may not have experienced that? I think it is admirable you want to make sure your writing isn't excluding any populations or communities, just know that not every group will feel comfortable with you portraying them without having stake in the situation, IMHO. Now-everyone else on here could tell me to pound sand and that I'm absolutely wrong-this is ***entirely*** my perspective and opinion.


mossenmeisje

I think my preference in this is something I read once: you can write minorities you're not a part of, but you can't write about *being* that minority. What I mean is that I think it's cool if OP wants to have a character that uses neopronouns, but unless they're some flavour of genderqueer themself they shouldn't write in-depth about the kind of struggles that character faces due to their gender identity, exactly like you're saying. Same goes with any of the other things. Stories with casual representation and stories about minority experiences are both super valuable, and I personally think it's pretty neat if more people go for the first option even if they don't belong to a certain group. Just do a bit of research so you don't fall into some of the common tropes (the non-binary alien, asexual robot, etc etc). Even better would be having multiple characters belonging to a certain minority, so you can show the diversity within a group. That also helps avoid tropes. I know some people love reclaiming those tropes in a way and that's cool too, but I do believe you can't reclaim something that was never taken from you - so probably safest to just avoid them if they're not about your own identity.


blue_honeyblood

Hey, if you wanna know exactly, I´m asexual, demiromantic or aroflux, androromantic, onmiromantic, demigirlflux, demiboyflux and autistic and I partly use neopronouns (they/xe). I dont want to represent somebody falsely, so I know I have to be careful. And as u/mossenmeisje said, I think it is possible to write about something that you aren´t, as long as you don´t write about being something that you aren´t.


generallyannon93

u/mossenmeisje said it better than I did. I think inclusion of those characters is **critical** in writing. I think the more people see characters of diverse flavors the more people will understand the spectrum of people. I hope you were comfortable sharing your identity-I only asked that in the sense of "have you lived and experienced xyz if you're going to write about the struggle", not in the explicit sense of "I need you to share with me and Reddit", but I appreciate the honesty and genuine reply. I think whatever you write is going to be awesome, because you're also wanting to hear/read feedback of inclusion, not just saying "oh the world clearly needs xyz in my opinion". And whoever said overweight or curvy badass folx, please more of this forever.


blue_honeyblood

I appreciate that very much, thanks


kyeaj24

more aroace characters?


blue_honeyblood

True, we need more of those. Thank you!


welp-i-guess-im-gay

oh i would love someone who uses it/it’s pronouns! i’m gender fluid and sometimes use neopronouns, but it/it’s are my favorite. and i never see them represented anywhere!


blue_honeyblood

Thank you!


MossyPyrite

They’re probably rare because many gender nonconforming people have been referred to as “it” in a harmful way. That’s not to say there’s anything wrong with using those pronouns yourself, of course! But I thought that might be why more writers are hesitant to include them.


SuingGodForAlimony

I like different things from fantasy queer representation than queer representation in other genres. From fantasy i generally want to imagine a world in which being gay isn't a shameful thing or even seen as abnormal, like in she-ra. Along with that, different body types and diversity! Tbh, idk if you even need to say outright what their label is depending on the fantasy world. You can show them being gnc rather than telling us theyre a demigirl or whatever. In fact, you might consider thinking about how the culture you're creating views gender. Do they have an equivalent idea of nonbinary genders? Try researching Non Western cultures, as many had some concept of genderqueerness prior to colonization. (Two-spirit gets a talked about a lot, but India, mexico, and Judaism also have histories of acknowledging genderqueer identities.) In any case, this might also spark some deeper world building. In general, i value queerness more in the storytelling than in technical representation. By this i mean I'd rather have a story that is queer behind the scenes rather than just naming a character and saying oh yeah they're gay. Let your characters be more than charicatures or "in name only" queers. allow them to have flaws, have heart, and more than just their label while not making that label in name only. Basically, Don't be jk Rowling.


blue_honeyblood

Thank you!


MossyPyrite

Are you into tabletop RPGs at all? Pathfinder has lots of good and varied representation in their games!


Professional-Stock-6

Since you mentioned you are demigender, why not that? As a demiboy, I think it’d be neat to see someone who also falls into that category


blue_honeyblood

Tbh, I dont think I have ever read about a demigender character. Thanks!


Professional-Stock-6

Np! Best of luck with your writing


_jarvih

Transmasc people who don't appear like "the badass butch" who's only good at fighting and throwing out strong language.


blue_honeyblood

Thanks!


_mile_ss_

Probably late but I would love xe/xem pronouns. Very little people know about them!


blue_honeyblood

Thanks! Doesnt matter if youre late, advice is always needed.


Embertheconfused

MORE TRANS PEOPLE. PLEASE. ALSO ACE WHILE IM YELLING. I love to read stories with representation in them, but it’s SO difficult to find representation that’s deeper than just your average straight love story but with different pronouns. Yes having representation for gays, bisexuals, and lesbians is important, but I want more characters that I can relate to. I’m agender, but I love reading non-binary, gender fluid people, and people who use multiple pronoun sets. Also, please, I’m actually begging you, don’t have the trans person end up getting (bit of a trigger warning) s3xually harassed. I’ve read multiple stories (especially with non-binary characters) where something really bad happens to them and it leaves a really bad taste in my mouth as I’m non-binary too. I understand that’s important to talk about but not in literally every single book. Also if you do do that, trigger warnings at the beginning of the book would be nice. Now this last one might be a bit of a stretch, but like, you need to find the fine line between “OH MY GOD YOUR GAY THE WORLD IS GONNA END” and “…. (It’s never discussed)…” because like sometimes big emotional coming outs are really fun to read when they’re done well. Other wise they seem sappy and like it’s putting too much attention on the character being queer. But when you never mention it it feels like it’s trivial and unimportant (at least to me, I can’t speak for anyone else). Thanks for reading and I hope this helps :)


blue_honeyblood

Thank you!